One of the most common things people tell me is that they can’t be hypnotized. I usually laugh as it’s both a frustrating statement and depending on the person either an expression of fear, control issues, or a want to feel like they’re in control. Almost always, it’s an issue of control. In fact, I can’t remember the last person who told me this who wasn’t also a person who had major issues around control…
If you haven’t already, I suggest you checkout my post on what hypnosis is… (“What is Hypnosis?“) But in short, trance states are necessary for life. For instance, daydreaming, intense focus/flow mode, imagining, being absorbed… are all trance states. In other words, people go in and out of hypnosis all day long.
It’s true: some people cannot easily go into trance in a hypnotist’s office; however, this is almost always an issue of trust: the client doesn’t trust the hypnotist or doesn’t trust themselves or doesn’t want to relinquish control for some other reason (that usually boils down to lack/fear of trust).
In fact, I find that people who say they cannot be hypnotized either think that 1) only stupid people can be hypnotized (the opposite is true: the smarter and more imaginative you are, the more susceptible to hypnosis you are BECAUSE YOU ALREADY DO HYPNOSIS ALL THE TIME!) and 2) they have to give up control to be hypnotized and they deeply fear lacking control. Other people do not have a problem with it generally.